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I got married to Jay on 2001, April 26th. Ours was an arranged marriage, the wedding conducted with all the usual customs in a traditional way. The wedding day was so rife with disagreements between us and Jay's family that i felt it was the worst day of my life. As a family and as far as I was concerned the wedding day occasion was a much looked forward to event. I believe it was the same with Jay too. We had been engaged for close to 5 months and were geared to tie the knot. A marriage i now cherish as Holy as i can get to be, turned into a nightmarish experience for some time of my life. That's intriguing...How does that happen ? Giving something time to play out and making things happen is perhaps possible. It's all deep down intentions and desires which surface with time and makes it a worthwhile effort. Marriage is a tough journey which gets going from the knotty day to the end of life and is a journey of discoveries. A holy union of two souls is what marriage is all about. The way it has been thrown around and abused is heart wrenching. Jay is a sincere though playful, hard working though a procrastinator, prayerful though areligious and he is mostly rich in thoughts with swift actions. It has been an ardent effort to see through the contradictions of another soul and realising marriages are made in heaven. I do run the risk of being contained as a fixed minded entity. I do understand the regression that i have employed to get to the drawn conclusion about marriages is simple and not a overthought complicated pathological product. We as a world are running towards new emerging family norms and characteristics. There is a rush to push aside old family organisations and replace it with more fluid quick fix standings. Where are we heading to ? Are we prepared to pay a price, with sacrifice of a workable comfortable married life ? Don't we need to ponder upon why we pay less heed to a system of functional marriages?
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| Jay and me on our engagement day |
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| Before the Taj Mahal |
Marriages may not be made in heaven but it's a beautiful journey, where we constantly learn about ourselves , as well as our partner. Love, good intentions and compromises are key. An open account, well written, short and crisp! Stay blessed��
ReplyDeleteThanks Pri. Yeah a journey of discoveries.
DeleteThe Journey of Marriage may not be like portrayed in movies, but the comfort given by this institution is amazing!
ReplyDeleteOne could have their point of reference to movies, books, cliches whatever it is ; it needs to be positive and healthy.
DeleteLovely thought provoking post. Would like to state though that, mutual compromise slowly blooms into care and love only through effective communication which I suppose is fast becoming a rarity in the digital world. On a lighter note maybe we can sart a MOOC on this 😜 what say
ReplyDeleteThanks. I thought IT has made communication much faster, effective and good. I don't know anything about MOOC to sart it either.🙏
DeleteBeautiful to see your understanding of marraige sculptures beautifully with years of experience! I am sure Jay would have enjoyed reading such a wonderful reflection of his personality in your words. Stay blessed.
ReplyDeleteThanks. I am glad it was appreciable. Is this Rams ?
ReplyDeleteSome complex thoughts Vini. Aren’t we meant as a race to evolve to new things?
ReplyDeleteIt's an attempt to make things simple in a complicated world Suni. So much already existing, only when we are exhausted with the existing do we progress on to newer things. But you are right, in the present exponentially growing disruptive tech world evolving to newer things is the norm.
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